The initial instant when you lay eyes on your date for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience particularly for males who are expected to take the lead. Many thought’s will run through your mind. Should I go for a kiss on the check, a handshake, a warm hug, or a kiss on the lips. The initial greeting sets the tone for the remainder of the night, and is an opportunity to show confidence, break the ice, and establish physical contact and comfort without sexual overtones.
The best greeting will vary depending on whether you have known each other for a long time, met briefly, or met though an online dating site or app. In addition, social norms vary greatly worldwide, so if you’re travelling outside of Australia it’s a good idea to get advice from a local.
In most cases however the best first date greeting option is a warm hug with an optional kiss on the check. Ideally the hug shouldn’t linger for too long unless you have known each other for a long time and are looking to move from friends to lovers. A kiss on the lips is almost always too forward unless you first met at a night club or bar and have kissed previously.
Although it can be tempting to commence with a handshake, a handshake will generally set the tone for a date which feels more like a business meeting and is not advisable. The worst possible greeting however is an awkward wave and “hi” which is likely to lead to an uncomfortable first date with no forward momentum.
It is therefore highly recommended to start your date with a warm hug, which is a simple, natural, and socially acceptable way to ease into your date and establish a level of comfort with each other.